I have so many thoughts swirling around in my head. Bear with me as I put them into words.

I am human. I am not a robot. Surprised? I have thoughts, expressions, feelings, opinions, emotions and most importantly relationships.

We think we know what is best for other people. We often times do not hesitate to share our opinion or advice.  Funny coming from someone going to school to be a counselor, huh? Well, I do not think the point is to push our opinions and advice on others, but rather listen and help guide those searching for answers or those going through a hard time. We need to be encouraging and edifying, especially to those that are hurting or lost.  Encouragement can strengthen a person’s spirit, but discouragement and negativity can crush a spirit in an instant. A crushed spirit takes longer to build back up. What is there to be gained by tearing others down? There is enough pain and hurt in the world without bringing it ourselves. It really should not even be an issue. There is only one judge who has that kind of authority.

We do not even know what is best for ourselves sometimes. What we choose or would choose is not always what God deems to be the best.  For instance, my dad dying this year is NOT EVEN CLOSE to what I think is best. However, our all knowing, loving, gracious Father in His infinite wisdom and knowledge thought otherwise. I have thought about it A LOT over the last several months. I am angry, sad, and mostly confused. I do not understand, but the great part is, I do not have to understand. God understands and knows the pain that is my heart and the hearts of my family. Something struck me just this week, if there was one, just ONE, lost soul who was touched by my dad’s life, the shock of the cancer or the message spoken at the funeral and that individual comes to know Jesus as his or her own personal Savior, it was worth it. Whew, that is hard to express out loud.

There are few people in this world who truly know my heart, my dreams, and my desires. Not everyone gets to be privy to my inner most being that is precious and fragile. It is about having a relationship built on a strong foundation with trust, encouragement, and a willingness to be there to offer a hug, a shoulder to cry on, or just to listen without judging.

I am a work in progress. I am thankful I am not complete, because I am nowhere near where I want to be. What brings me joy is that God promises he will complete me.

We have but one life to live; one chance to impact others and cultivate lasting relationships. How are your relationships being impacted by your words and actions? And more importantly, what are you doing today to positively impact the lives of others for Christ?